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I am a feminist.

Urgh, why?

Why? Well, mostly because people keep asking that question. I talk about women’s issues and gender politics a lot here without apologising for my stance as a feminist. If you object to that, you might want to rethink your visits here.

My inspirations and guides include, but are not limited to:

Caitlin Moran
The Vagenda
Everyday Sexism
Project Unbreakable
Malala Yousafzai
Emma Watson
Ayaan Hirsi Ali
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
Michelle Obama

Does this mean you’re a prude?

Hell no. I don’t get cross about porn/erotica itself, but I do hate the way it is marketed.  I am massively in favour of sex positivity, but I do believe that women should be in the driving seat and make their own choices. Don’t want to have sex? That’s up to you. But if you do, and you’re being shamed into repressing your sexuality by someone else – that’s not cool. Want to have lots of sex? Wayhey, that’s great too. But if you’re being forced into sex, or a type of sex, against your will? That’s also not cool.

So what DO you believe?

I absolutely believe all women are entitled to:

  • Bodily autonomy
  • Make their own decisions about parenthood
  • Receive equal pay for equal work
  • Respect
  • Live a life free from violence or fear of violence
  • A free education
  • Independence
  • Choose to vote
  • Participate fully in any hobby they enjoy
  • Pursue any career they are capable of
  • Choose their own life balance between career and parenthood
  • Marry anyone they choose
  • Dress as they choose without fear or harrasment, sexual assault or rape
  • Speak freely about their lives and experiences
  • Have sex lives which are free from shame
  • Refuse to consent to sex at an time

So, you’re anti-men then?

Far from it. I love men. Men are great. Or rather, every man has the capacity to be great. Like every woman. I am married to a fantastic man, who I love, and who supports me in all that I do.

Feminism is not about hating men. Only a severely misguided person could take a movement which celebrates and advances the cause of women and turn it into something which is against men. Feminism is not about men at all. It’s about empowering women, who still get the thin edge of the wedge in far too many cultures, societies and countries across this world. I believe we still need International Women’s Day, but it should not be ‘celebrated’.

If you believe in these things, then you are a feminist too. If that makes you uncomfortable, you need to read more about what feminism actually is.

2 thoughts on “FEMINISM

  1. Anna Friewald says:

    Agreed! Great choice of women. Recently really taken in by Caitlin Moran too! Read Infidel by Ayaan. Really rocked my head…maybe a blog post suggesting literature for the people who are uncomfortable with your freedom list above might be interesting to do? I am certainly always keen to know about notable feminist books! Unless if course you have already done one… 🙂

    • Mrs Shandy says:

      A reading list has been on my mind for a while, but if you want more recommended reading, you should check out the Shandy, Media Club part of the site for review of books, tv, film and more… As with all parts of the site, the SMC is open to submissions!

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